Enneagram Type 5 Observers/Thinkers/Investigators are typically introverted, curious, analytical and insightful. Enneagram Type 6 Loyalists/Doubters/Skeptics are typically responsible, reliable, trustworthy and value security and loyalty. Here we explore the compatibility of an Enneagram Type 5 with a Type 6 and what the relationship looks like when it is in balance and when it starts to spiral downward.
Enneagram Type 5:6 When In Balance
The Investigator (5) and the Loyalist (6) share an intellectual attraction, and mutual respect and admiration are at the foundation of this pair.
The Investigator (5) appreciates the patience, kindness, devotion and tenacity of their Loyalist (6). The more outwardly facing Loyalist (6) helps ensure their Investigator (5) doesn’t get too isolated both socially and in the context of their relationship. This is healthy and helpful for the Investigator (5) who may start to place a higher value on personal relationships as a result of the influence of their partner.
The Loyalist (6) appreciates the intellectual intensity, the curiosity, creativity and the adventurous nature of their Investigator (5). The Investigator (5) mind is always at work solving problems, posing questions and experimenting. This is fascinating to the Loyalist (6) and can help widen their worldview. They also appreciate and admire the emotional calm of their Investigator (5) who seems unscathed by the ups and downs of life.
They function well as a team because their minds work so differently. The Loyalist (6) tends to think more narrowly, dedicated to tested and established methods. The Investigator (5) is more experimental and more creative in its approach. Together, they are well balanced to tackle life’s challenges.
When they both truly believe their hearts and minds are in the same place, the trust between this pair is powerful, and they can share a lasting, fulfilling bond.
Enneagram Type 5:6 The Downward Spiral
The intellectual intensity that draws this couple together can also be what pulls this couple apart. They come at the world from very different perspectives, with the Investigator (5) on a continuous pursuit of new information and ideas and the Loyalist (6) more interested following and maintaining the agreed upon paradigms. This can be a source of frustration for both partners and may trigger the downward spiral.
With tightening defenses, both become more extreme. As the Investigator (5) explores new horizons, they may lose respect for their Loyalist (6) finding them close-minded, fearful and believing them to be intellectually inferior. Loyalist (6)s feel threatened by their Investigator (5)’s drive to question their fundamental worldviews. New information can feel destabilizing to the Loyalist (6), triggering an anxiety response. As the Loyalist (6) clings harder to their beliefs, the Investigator (5) pushes harder to question the status quo. Trust erodes, and the belief that both have their hearts and minds in the same place may fall into question. Unless the momentum of the downward spiral can be broken, the relationship may end.
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- Read more: Loyalist (6)s talking about their relationships with their Investigator (5) at page 236
- Read more: Investigator (5)s talking about their relationships with their Loyalist (6) at page 276
- Read more: Kundalini Yoga kriyas and meditations for Investigator (5)s and Loyalist (6)s at 462