Enneagram Compatibility: Loyalist Type 6 with Peacemaker Type 9

Enneagram Type 6 Loyalists/Doubters/Skeptics are typically responsible, reliable, trustworthy and value security and loyalty. Enneagram Type 9 is called the Peacemaker or the Meditator because of their focus on harmony and their mellow, go-with-the-flow attitude. Here we explore the compatibility of an Enneagram Type 6 with a Type 9 and what the relationship looks like when it is in balance and when it starts to spiral downward.


Enneagram Type 6:9 When In Balance

The Loyalist (6) with the Peacemaker (9) build a relationship based on stability and a healthy mix of autonomy and teamwork. Both share a desire for a predictable, secure life centered on a committed relationship. Family, work life and routine take priority over adventure and risk-taking, and this couple share a fairly conventional life together.

The Loyalist (6) brings loyalty, curiosity, energy, and a drive to guard, protect and improve their environment and the relationship itself. Mentally active and vigilant, Loyalist (6)s can be endearing in their insecurity. They bring a warmth and a playfulness to the dynamic. Because they can be insecure and unsure of themselves, they make the Peacemaker (9) feel needed. Peacemaker (9)s readily step into this role, feeling they can offer their Loyalist (6) the unconditional acceptance they crave.

The Peacemaker (9) brings steadiness, commitment, nonjudgment, tolerance and a drive for peace and harmony. These traits are stabilizing and deeply healing for the Loyalist (6) who tends towards anxious thinking and who fears abandonment. Peacemaker (9)s are calm, grounded and collaborative but with a need for independence. This couple might be very tightly enmeshed in certain area of their lives but also have a great deal of autonomy in others.

Together, this is a balancing pair with the Peacemaker (9) offering the solid foundation and the Loyalist (6) bringing energy and vitality to the mix. This is a caring, committed couple who have a great deal of admiration for each other.


Enneagram Type 6:9 The Downward Spiral

There are several potential triggers for the downward spiral in this relationship. Inertia can be a factor as both partners are reluctant to question the status quo. The relationship can get rote and routine to the point where emotional connection suffers, and true intimacy is lost. Unfulfilling jobs may be maintained, dysfunctional financial situations continue and thorny problems go unaddressed far longer than they would with other couples. The relationship may march along but neither partner is truly happy, and there is a lack of alignment on future goals. Stalemates and unaired issues litter the environment threatening the core of the relationship.

Alternatively, differing stress responses can be a trigger. With tightening defenses, Loyalist (6)s become more anxious and more catastrophic in their thinking. If this is directed at their partner, the Peacemaker (9) reacts by withdrawing, shutting down or stonewalling. This further triggers the Loyalist (6) who becomes more reactive, demanding and hysterical. As the downward spiral gains momentum, both partners polarize into their corners without a clear path to reconciliation or healing. Without a break in the momentum, the relationship is at risk.


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