The Enneagram Type 1 is called the Perfectionist or the Reformer because their attention automatically goes to what needs improvement and correction. Enneagram Type 7 is called the Enthusiast, the Adventurer, and the Generalist because of their enthusiasm for almost everything (especially new things), their adventure-seeking focus, and their wide range of interests. Here we explore the compatibility of an Enneagram Type 1 with a Type 7 and what the relationship looks like when it is in balance and when it starts to spiral downward.
Enneagram Type 1:7 When Ιn Balance
The detail-oriented, practically-minded Perfectionist (1) and brainstorming, big picture Enthusiast (7) enjoy a symbiotic, balancing relationship with both offering valuable traits the other generally lacks. When self-aware and in balance, they complete each other. This can be a highly complementary pairing. Perfectionist (1)s bring order, efficiency, tactical thinking, practicality, follow through and commitment to high standards. Enthusiast (7)s offer high energy, a positive outlook, resilience, strategic thinking and an orientation towards fun and adventure.
Perfectionist (1)s help Enthusiast (7)s stay the course and remain focused in the face of difficulties and obstacles. The Perfectionist (1)’s attention to detail and practical thinking means projects and initiatives get done well with favorable results. They are methodical, thorough and more contained with their energy, and this can be helpful for the excitable Enthusiast (7).
Enthusiast (7)s bring joy and playfulness to the relationship and can help make sure things don’t get too heavy, balancing the seriousness of the Perfectionist (1). They remind the Perfectionist (1) to have fun, to relax and to enjoy life. With their insatiable belief in a brighter future where all things are possible, the Enthusiast (7) inspires new projects, new trips and new adventures for the couple.
Both types can admire each other. Enthusiast (7)s appreciate the Perfectionist (1)’s methodical and systematic approach to life as well as their reliability. They are happy to have a detail-oriented person at their side as most Enthusiast (7)s are aware that attention to detail is not their forte. Perfectionist (1)s admire the Enthusiast (7)’s high spirits, joy and sense of fun and adventure. Enthusiast (7)s charge enthusiastically forward in life, and this can be balancing for Perfectionist (1)s who sometimes hold back and get overly involved in the details.
When aligned and in balance, this can be a mutually satisfying, fulfilling relationship.
Enneagram Type 1:7 The Downward Spiral
When fixated or in low stages of awareness, this can be a frustrating and difficult match riddled with misunderstanding and misaligned goals.
Under stress with tightening defenses, Perfectionist (1)s become more rigid, judgmental, irritated and blaming. They start to resent the playful, high-spirited Enthusiast (7) who is rarely interested in details or a methodical approach to situations. Perfectionist (1)s see the Enthusiast (7) as pleasure seeking, unfocused, impractical and with a lack of commitment to high standards. It may feel as though a social contract has been broken, and the Perfectionist (1) may start to take this behavior personally, as though it were directed at them.
Enthusiast (7)s on the other hand, get frustrated with the rigidity and seriousness of the Perfectionist (1). They start to feel penned in and trapped by what feels like a relentless “work before play” attitude. They can see the Perfectionist (1) as a strict schoolmarm who brings them down, limits them and drains their enthusiasm.
Conflicts between the two usually stem from their different approaches—Enthusiast (7)s have an immediacy of wanting to enjoy life to its fullest, and Perfectionist (1)s want to make sure all practical responsibilities are met before they allow themselves to relax and enjoy life. Enthusiast (7) start to feel like the Perfectionist “just doesn’t get it” while Perfectionist (1)s see the Enthusiast (7) as irresponsible and immature. If the downward spiral gains momentum, the differences they share start to polarize the couple. The Enthusiast (7) may feel worn down and frustrated by the Perfectionist (1)’s continual criticism and dissatisfaction. They look for pleasant distractions to make themselves feel better. The Perfectionist (1) gets even more frustrated with the Enthusiast (7)’s way of dealing with the situation. Their Enthusiast (7) partner begins to seem unreliable, scattered and hedonistic, someone with whom it is very difficult to imagine a positive future. The Perfectionist (1) might start developing feelings of contempt for the Enthusiast (7). With a panicking and frustrated Enthusiast (7) and a disillusioned, contemptuous Perfectionist (1), the connection falters, and the relationship is in trouble.
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- Read more: Enthusiast (7)s talking about their relationships with their Perfectionist (1) at page 67
- Read more: Perfectionist (1)s talking about their relationships with their Enthusiast (7) at page 308
- Read more : the Kundalini Yoga kriyas and meditations for Perfectionist (1)s at page 474 and Enthusiast (7)s at page 462.