1:5 When Ιn Balance
The Perfectionist (1) and Investigator (5) share many traits and values that make for a steady, satisfying partnership punctuated by mutual respect, independence and shared interests.
Values of personal freedom, respect, integrity and pursuit of knowledge are the foundation of this pair. Both are interested in facts, data and being well-informed and correct. Together they enjoy verbal sparring and lively discussion. They share an attraction to each other’s intellect, and this can be a highly cerebral couple. Both partners value objectivity and try to avoid drama. They are highly respectful of personal boundaries and are generally contained with their emotions. They work hard to allow each other personal space and freedom as this is seen as a foundational element to their relationship.
Their differences offer opportunities for growth. Their thirst for knowledge is different, and they can learn a lot by observing each other. Perfectionist (1)s seek fairness, justice and correctness. They tend to have a more rigid perspective, and this absolutism can be intriguing to their Investigator (5). Investigator (5)s are more relative, open-minded and on a never-ending quest for knowledge. When in balance, this open-mindedness can offer a growth edge for the Perfectionist (1), inviting them to be more flexible in their thinking.
Both types tend to manage time differently. Perfectionist (1)s are structured, organized and precise in their time commitments and time management. They are schedule oriented and often have future plans carefully laid out weeks or months in advance. This can be a growth opportunity for Investigator (5)s who resist making concrete long-range plans with others since they have difficulty predicting their energy levels or appetite for social engagements. When these differences are seen as opportunities to cultivate flexibility, compromise and compassion, they can be an asset to the relationship. Overall, this is a sweetly contained, affectionate and even-keeled couple. Their devotion to each other is evident and inspiring to those around them.
1:5 The Downward Spiral
When in a fixated or unaware state, the same differences that offered growth opportunities can trigger the downward spiral of the relationship. When Perfectionist (1)s tighten their defenses, they become more critical, rigid, harsh and close-minded. When Investigator (5)s tighten their defenses, they withdraw, disengage and shutdown. This polarization triggers the downward spiral.
Perfectionist (1)s may become critical and judgmental about their Investigator (5)’s less structured approach to life and their sometimes radical intellectual ideas. Investigator (5)s may start to see their Perfectionist (1) as rigid, close-minded and focused on the details at the expense of the bigger picture. Criticism, stonewalling and a lack of respect may enter the picture. As both types are highly contained with their emotions and respectful of personal boundaries, open fighting may be rare. However, the warm bond the couple shared weakens, and coolness and isolation set in. Both may craft fairly independent lives for themselves, so while the relationship may appear intact to the outside world, true intimacy is lost. At this stage, an eventual breakup is likely.
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