• Enneagram,  Kundalini Yoga

    The Nine Keys Introduction (a sneak preview)

    Για Ελληνικά, πηγαίνετε εδώ Introduction: When I was 23 years old, I moved from Los Angeles, California to Boston, Massachusetts to be part a new East Coast office for the CPA firm I was working for at the time. Shortly after arriving, I started dating an attractive Boston chef. He was charming, affectionate and attentive and since we met as housemates, we were always together. And then, about 7 months into our relationship, I learned he was stealing money from me. He would forge checks from my checkbook and then steal my bank statements so I wouldn’t understand what was happening.   On the day it all came to light,…

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    And Then We Just Move On… (excerpt from The Nine Keys)

      This is an excerpt from “The Nine Keys” Amelia, Enthusiast (7) married in a 26-year relationship with Jan, Loyalist (6)   “My husband is hilarious and playful with a razor-sharp and millisecond-quick wit. I love that he makes me laugh almost every day and that he is a good and solid man. He is  extremely loyal, dependable and thoughtful. He brings wisdom; I can come to him with a problem, and his insights are wonderful. He models hospitality and generosity, which are not effortless or easy for me. He helps keep me grounded and reigns me in when I start getting too scattered with my many activities and projects.…

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    The Tender Marine (excerpt from The Nine Keys)

      This is an excerpt from “The Nine Keys” Photocredit: Josh Christophersen Sydney, Peacemaker (9) in a 2-year relationship with Richard, Leader (8) “I value Richard’s strength and decisiveness, and the fact that we share great conversation, a sense of humor and much laughter together. He is fiercely and uncompromisingly principled, and I can count on him to do the right thing. He came from a very painful childhood in which even his basic survival was threatened, but he came out not only strong and independent, but also surprisingly tender at times. His tenderness is made all the more sweet because it is occasional and not smothering. He is a…

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    Ordinary People (excerpt from The Nine Keys)

     This is an excerpt from “The Nine Keys” Anita, Achiever (3), formerly in a 30-year relationship with Donald, Peacemaker (9)   “The traits which attracted me to Donald were his wonderful sense of humor, his intelligence, his unflappable sense of calm, his ability to  “not sweat the small stuff”, his support and his stability.  I met Donald very young–we went to the same elementary school and were about one year apart academically.  We began dating when he was in high school.   Energetically, we were opposites. The notation under my picture as student body president in our school’s yearbook read, “Rushing madly and incessantly about, she is always doing something…

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    Till Death Do Us Part…(excerpt from The Nine Keys)

     This is an excerpt from “The Nine Keys” Elsa, Perfectionist (1) married in an 18-year relationship with Lars, Enthusiast (7) “I was with my husband for 18 years (married 15 years and 2 days) before he died suddenly of a massive heart attack. We were both 44 years old. I still miss him beyond words just over 5 years later. We had both been in active recovery from addiction for a couple of years before we got together as a couple so we had the advantage of being in a very conscious relationship.   There are so many things I loved about my husband…He was quick on the uptake, brilliant…

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    Dancing with the Bones of a Skeleton (excerpt from The Nine Keys)

      This is an excerpt from “The Nine Keys” Henry, Peacemaker (9) married in a 17-year relationship with Prisha, Perfectionist (1) “I love so many things about my wife… Prisha sets high standards and lives by them.  Her integrity is unquestionable. She can be the most considerate and thoughtful person I have ever known. She has a bubbly, self-effacing, charming sense of humor that could never offend anyone. She is both spontaneous and funny!   She has great taste in clothing, decorating and furnishing. My wife is extremely well organized and keeps clutter to a minimum. Prisha inspires others with her vision and her charisma. She is an excellent public speaker.…

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    People Think I’m a Robot… (excerpt from The Nine Keys)

     This is an excerpt from “The Nine Keys” Sandy, Investigator (5) formerly married in a 6-year relationship with Marco, Investigator (5) “People think I’m a robot underneath, but I’m really more like a nebula. I am always trying to understand the structure of my nature, but I know that the human suit I’ve been assigned to contextualize my shape is wrong. That feeling of discrepancy eats at me to the core. From a young age, I felt at odds with the people around me– my schoolmates, neighbors, and so forth. When I was really young, I’d climb up on the counter and push the medicine cabinet mirror towards the main…

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    The Tuna Incident…(excerpt from The Nine Keys)

     The following is an excerpt from “The Nine Keys” Charlotte, Leader (8) married in a 20-year relationship with Oliver, Helper (2) “We were 26 years old when we met and each going through difficult times. His kindness, softness and tenderness, despite my constant resistance, was what won my heart… He knew somehow that my hard shell was just that, a shell. He saw through it whereas other people didn’t. Or others saw it, decided they could not break it and walked away. He was persistent. And that won me over. Somehow I felt he passed the test. My husband is stable, reliable, self-sacrificing and wants the best for his family.…

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    And the Winner Is… (excerpt from The Nine Keys)

      This is an excerpt from “The Nine Keys” Dorothy, Helper (2) married in a 9-year relationship with Alex, Achiever (3)   “My husband is responsible, focused, adaptable, diverse in his interests and a wonderful mix of stable and adventurous. Alex has a huge heart and is a truly kind and caring person. He is a great partner; very conscious of his actions and decisions, and how they impact me, us and our flow.  He can be very sensitive, expressive, affirming, and affectionate.  He is often a great listener and when fully focused, shares heartfelt responses.  He has high self-esteem and a strong drive to be the best in all…

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    The Enneagram in Relationships–What Types Go Well Together

    Learn about the Essential Encyclopedia of the Enneagram in Relationships “The Nine Keys” Type Compatibility: The Theory   After people learn their own Enneagram type, the next question I invariably get asked is “what types go well together?” or “who should I be with?” Everyone wants to know. The answer is that all type combinations can be happy together if both partners have high levels of self awareness. And the reverse is true. All combinations may struggle if both people have a lack of self awareness. Type compatibility is more about similar levels self awareness than it is about personality type. The basic guidelines are: Two highly self aware people…